DON'T HIDE AND SEEK THE LOVE!!!!!

All our lives we wait for the True love of our life.. Someone who can be the only one for whom we matter the most in this universe... They say not everyone is lucky enough to find the "TRUE LOVE" of life and those who do find it.. say very few are lucky enough to keep it!!

Well in this roller coaster of seeking love.. Do we really remember what it is when its love that we have..  Love is an emotional connection and should not be treated frivolously..  

Love that can exist in so many shapes and sizes metaphorically if given a tag nurtures into a relationship.. and not being too philosophical about it.. 

I wonder, why is it always Want for Some more and never We have it all..

Why do the relationships always go through the test of time and becomes a subject of questioning.. Why cant we simply put life in relationships rather than counting relationships in life...

Trying not to sound cynical, why is it that we always focus on getting the love and never being in love.. 

Why do we always forget the worth of something when we get it??? And realise its worth when we loose it???

The more we are with someone, the more we tend to (not always intentionally) take the other person for granted.. So does this indicate that for most usual cases of all there is a hint of drifting apart in extreme closeness? And should there be a parameter or a warning device that can prevent the relationship going Hay-wire...  Why can't we keep the very love till the end from the time that we discover that love for someone..

 Is the increasing choice of  transitory relationships a reason that people look out more often as an excuse to simply shrug the love off and easily swift from one beloved to the other and enjoy it till it lasts...

If the world was still the same for each one of us thinking and sticking to the promises and vows of "Till death do us apart" then how far can this "seeking true love concept" be solved and can it considerably reduce this Hide and Seek for the most of all?? 

And can it help in being not so calculative while falling for someone and being assured that there is someone to catch us and  not being more prone to start using heart less after coming across few Heartless??

Is it just that more of wanting or expecting from others that signals the beginning of the cracks in any relationship?

Does the human need of never being completely satisfied with whatever we have and always trying to get more of everything can be the reason for "Its not Working" phrase being used more frequently and not rarely??

These unsatisfied wants (sometimes unreasonable demands as well) can probably even lead to irreversible changes and how well prepared we should keep ourselves to overcome it or simply avoid it in the first place??  
Can this only be done by trial and error?? Or the "TRUE LOVE" that we search for all our lives give us an understanding which helps us learn these lesson of life more rationally and keep in check what we look out for rather than loosing it forever...  

All we can do is to Love someone with all our heart as we never know what tomorrow holds... And keeping no regrets is the best way to cherish the past and welcome the future!!

Changes in life are necessary and inevitable as well and its not necessary that a relationship can be assessed completely perfect if there is no bumps at all.. Rather its more of enjoying the most of speed breakers ahead to reach the DESTINATION of life...  :)

                                                 And think not you can,

                                                  Direct the course of love,

                                                          For Love,

                                                   If it finds you worthy,

                                                    Directs your course...

Lights Camera Actionnnn ???

I often hear from my friends that, "they aren't ready for love","aren't ready for marriage",aren't ready to settle in life" etc etc..

I thought it was just few of many people who face this.. but as I read more articles and surfed more of it on the topic of not being ready.. I found myself wondering.. When is it when we THINK we are ready???? Ready for change in life.. ready to begin afresh.. or ready to simply let it go...

  

Fantasizing if there were fireworks or background music for every epical changes in the life think life is much better the way it is now.. As atleast theres a surprise in each moment of life...

Speaking about being ready in the relationship.. I wonder.. since so many articles give u a test to assess your readiness for the given relationship.. its hilarious to see the obvious results as its so generalised.. can these tests and articles help one understand that now is the time for get set and go in life???
 

I think its more of the other way round.. when we are ready for it, it just comes from within.. and at that time those grades and self evaluation falls short.. No self help books or .com sites can make one feel confident about the other person as  its just more of a feeling rather than simply thinking about it... 

At the end if we have faith and trust in the other person more than anything else.. I think.. thats when we realise we are ready for it.. When "we" and "us" starts sounding much better than "I" and "Me", when we are open to make small life changes in the big life plan.. 

At the tipping point of life where we know we are ready, no fireworks explosion is needed to realise that now is the time for action.. and we decide to cross the hurdles and complete the race just for the dear one waiting at the finishing end.. :)

SOULMATES

"SOULMATES".. two bodies one SOUL... Well at least thats how the word sounds to me.. So whats so special in this word that it brings a WOW feeling when we think about it??  May be its the vague definition we have furnished with time.. "Happiness.." "Love.." and "Until the end..."    

Soulmate--Too heavy a word.. We often don't realize that with heavy words come great responsibilities and inevitable adjustments....   

"Soulmate" a person we confide in while growing and after growing up.... But it just makes me think... If theres only one soulmate for each of us.. (Most certainly YES though hard to believe) then,  who were those whom we once thought were are soulmates.. Do we all fake it with the wrong ones until we find the true love of our life?? Or we fake they weren't right just coz we couldn't reach "till the End" with them.. Where does all the love go after a relationship ends??? Perhaps, In this world of transitory relationships.. Does a word like Soulmate be considered permanent??

With increasing rates of divorces n trends of short term relationships... Do we all need to redefine the whole concept of Soulmate...And, how well can we define whether we need to moan or move on with the broken relationships... 

May be its just that filling up of void that we look out for.. Or may b we are too afraid to be with ourselves and just look out for someone to always make us realize who we are, and most importantly accept us as we were made!!! And, does this mean that the only way to complete ourselves and for reaching "The End" of our life we just have to keep looking for someone....

Well, does liking and knowing the two words.. SOUL and MATE can give an understanding to the "SOULMATE"...And as they say.. our soulmate completes us... So, do we really need "A knight in shining Armour" or "Badshah on a white horse" to complete us...  Or its just hyped because we know that in this impermanent life the hunt is for something thats gonna stay forever with us and promise to be true to us in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, and will love, honor and protect us all the days of life..

Well.. I wonder, why don't we look out for someone who accepts the incomplete in us... Y does life always have to be chased rather than just lived... SOULMATES are definitely decided in HEAVEN.. So why do we always have to chase our choices.. It is may be because we need to realize the worth of it before we get it and tumble on all the wrong ones till we find the Right one for us. And, as a wise man once Said.. "One can't experience Happiness until we know whats Sadness... "

All said and done.. Hopelessly romantic and seeking love (Blame my love for Hindi Cinemas :P) I still wait for my man who in this world of hurt and pain helps me through the rain... :)

LIFE - A Fairy Tale !!!!

           Well as most of fairy tales often begin with "Once upon a time" I wonder.. whether they r actually meant just for once... 

Surviving on them while growing up, and believing from magic brush to tooth fairies.. I realise how easily these memories fade away coz in this whole process of growing up.. all we can remember is the demons that haunts every where especially in d voices of our own head.. 

I Stare at those magical words so as to understand that they happen once in a while and for the rest of the life its just an ordinary time beating those demons...

Gettin past fairy tales, in d world full of fantasies for the most part.. guess people aren't that different.. Black or white, male or female, pretty much everyone wants d same things from life... happiness n peace in their hearts... 


Perhaps the only difference is that younger generation seem to think that these things lay somewhere in d future.. while older believes that they lay in the past... For most of us the life simply keeps on shuffling from past to future and viceversa..

Now i think, do fairy tales dat always ended with "Happily ever after" can be believed?? It  just gets more and more difficult to turn away from our soul's purpose as we reach the end..

As rightly said, "Happily ever after happens Once in a while"

Well... Happy ending or not.. there are always lessons learnt and each of the experience touch us the very way like every " Once upon a time in a lala land" did.... :)

FInally Here......

Yeah Finally I am here.. YAY!!

It took me real long to decide whether I should really start my blog or not... But then (after few cribbing & whining sessions.. :P) decided to just give it a try...

Well To start with, I have been overflowing with thoughts  most often about sumthin particular.. But i neva thought ill put them in words... Don't know how far it will go... but m sure.. its the best way to UNWIND n wen this time has passed by... just a look at this blog.. n bring the memories back.... :)